(Firstly I want to say, if you ever need any advice just drop me a message because I will be happy to help - just know that I want to help you understand how you feel and what you want; not necessarily just tell you how you should feel and what you should do!)
I may just be turning 20, but I am already aware that I’m becoming a wise young woman. We all go through difficult staged of life, however unlike a lot of the people, I have gone through a lot of very difficult situations in my life which are not always common and I’ve faced some excruciating situations that I would never wish to inflict on anyone. Ever.
I, some may say, have been blessed to learn such lessons early on. Which is true - I’ve been able to learn new things every time I was tested and I do not regret that.
I have seen and done many things that some people could never imagine and it’s been hard, but I have learnt more in these past 20 years than some have in a life time. I have years of experience and some valuable knowledge, however don’t get me wrong, I know I am not perfect and I do not know everything by any means. I am also not saying I am better than anyone because of the things I have gone through, merely that I understand some things differently to others. This is not for sympathy - this is just to explain something…
So when people ask me for advice, which happens almost daily now a days, I am sometimes reluctant to help…
- This is NOT because I want to keep information to myself and be conceited.
- This is NOT because I wish to watch others falter and get hurt like I have done. I don’t wish it upon anyone to be in pain
- And it most certainly is NOT because I want to feel as though I am better than those who ask for help and be selfish
I have wisdom in areas of life that a lot of people will not necessarily understand, which I do share with those who ask for help, but I don’t always share it.
Why is that? Well…
What would it benefit people if I told them what to do every time they run into trouble? How would me giving them advice encourage them to use their own beautiful minds to explore their own thoughts and feelings…? If I helped them all the time how would they grow?
I don’t mean to seem horrible in any way, but I know I wouldn’t be where I am now if I’d never been forced to go through those situations alone with nothing but my own knowledge and drive.
I am all for sharing what wisdom I do have, but I would never want to cause someone else to deny what they believe in their heart if it means they miss out on a life lesson. I understand more than most how important it is to fall down; because that’s when you learn how to get back up again.